I am 18 and have a crush on my parish priest.Actually I think I love him.What should I do? Should I tell him? Is it a sin to like a priest?
|I have a crush on my pastor!|
|Q||I am 18 and have a crush on my parish priest.Actually I think I love him.What should I do? Should I tell him? Is it a sin to like a priest?|
|- Really Really Confused|
When you use the word "crush" you are already revealing part of the answer to your own question. You and I know that a "crush" doesn't last.
Of course, you love him. Your parish priest is probably a really nice guy, who has acted kindly toward you. Why wouldn't you love him? Don't tell him you're in love with him, though, because it will really mess up/complicate any future connections you have with him. It will make him wary and mistrustful of you--and when the crush is over, you'll feel awkward too.
Think about it this way. What if this man were the father of a friend of yours? You'd know that he was "off limits." Well, your parish priest is off limits also. He has received the Sacrament of Holy Orders, certainly as serious as the Sacrament of Matrimony. You are not sinning by being attracted to him, but you are if you choose to follow up on it. So--no notes, no hanging around him, no declarations of love.
What CAN you do? You can get involved in something else that occupies your mind--sports, a school club, helping to raise money for relief efforts. You are not helpless in the face of your attraction to your parish priest. You can make choices that are good and life-giving.