My sister is always mean to me and I try to be nice but she gets me on my nerves. My mother always blames everything on me. Also, my father is to busy working to have time for me. Then, to top it all off, the  Middle School gives to much homework and

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Q My sister is always mean to me and I try to be nice but she gets me on my nerves. My mother always blames everything on me. Also, my father is to busy working to have time for me. Then, to top it all off, the  Middle School gives to much homework and at the end of the day I am stressed out. So I blame it on everyone else, directly to mother because she just always "tops the cake." What should I do?
- Ruben
 
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Ruben: 

Your situatation sounds like the situations of many guys and gals your age.  It is far from easy growing up in todays world.  Heck, it is far from easy just living in today's world - for all of us!  I am sure your dad would rather be spending time with his family, but like all of us he has to do what he has to do.  And for him one of his main responsibilities is to provide for his family ...

I think the most imortant thing to do is to work on developing the best  relationship with God that you can.  We can't go it alone.  We need help!  And there is no one better able to help us than God.  Turn to Him when you are stressed out and let Him give you some peace.  Take some time to just sit quietly in His presence.  You don't need to talk; just let Him refresh you.  We are so busy that all too often we neglect the one thing we truly need - quiet time with our Lord.

The next thing you should do is try to have a mature discussion with your mother and father about how you feel.  Get them at a time when they are relaxed and not upset about anything; and when you are not upset about anything!  If you go into a discussion with them bursting with emotions, it will end badly!  Explain to your mother, that you feel unfairly blamed and be prepared to explain - in a non-accusatory way - exactly why you feel that way.  The more you can approach your parents and talk with them in a mature manner, the more you should be able to help them see your side of things.

As for your sister, just keep trying to be nice to her.  Of course she is going to get on your nerves - that's what siblings are for!  Trust me, I know.  I grew up with four younger brothers myself.  They irritated me all the time, but I survived.  And so will you!

 

- Fr Bob